labug: I know...the way I "ask" questions can sometimes come across as confusing and create even more questions!
What I'm trying to ask about is, when it comes to applying 180's, since a big issue in my M has been my lack of affection and/or desire to actually talk meaningfully with H, do I attempt to engage H more in these ways now? As I work on embracing the DB philosophies, I feel like I'm supposed to lay low, not pressure H, not initiate R talk when we are together. Yet it seems counter-intuitive to the extent that H left *because* I wasn't doing these things.
M-40 H-39 M- 12 years T- 20 years Separation: 5-8-12; H says he wants to pursue divorce
