He does seem very confused I think so many of the MLcers spiral down without getting to do any of the real inner work to make them better He may just continue down this path for a while or forever I thinkt will be difficult for any mlcer to get out of the mess they have created until such a low bottom is hit and they are forced to do therapy or get help On their own, I believe it impossible
and ow just help them stay sick we know 2 sick people cant make a relationship work and they can continue to blame you or focus on you for whatever reasons you are doing well to continue to detach..wish them well in your heart if possible and let them go energetically let go,
a friend I know let go energetically of Xh and ow ..it took many years like 8plus and finally they broke up not sure if her letting them totally go in heart thought and mind influenced his decision to leave ow or not wishing you all the best peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow