I know exactly what you mean about DB saying to do what works! I'm not sure anything is working with my H right now. I'm definitely GAL and having a good time doing it, but it does not replace the feelings of me missing my H.
I still think you are doing a great job!
M: 27 H: 28 T: 8 yrs M: 6 yrs Sep: 2/18/12 (I have no feelings for you!) EA/PA Uncovered: 2/26/12 H introduces OW to his fam: June H moves ALL stuff out: July