I'm back, on my own.

[canadianMrs.]

I guess my H would fit into the last, he wasn't an involved parent before and is trying to now. Although sometimes I wonder how much is trying and how much is what choice does he have. I guess he could ignore his visitation. When he does have them he does interact with them, but its always fun interaction. Homework doesn't get done, they eat out every meal etc. he also seems to interact with them more when he has an audience. My dd has said when its just them he watchs a lot of tv and lets them play with each other.
He was the parent/H that would come home from work and be a couch potato. He wasn't really involved with any of us/our home. Now he has the kids every other weekend and sees them usually once during the week. He does have a better relationship with them, but anything would be an improvement. I was the one who started the visitation schedule asap after he left our home. He was taken aback when I did that, he though we were going to wait, I'm not sure what he thought we were waiting for. My thoughts were, if he wanted to experience the life of a single dad, every other weekends would be part of it. Plus, I knew I would need a break (something I rarely got when H lived with us).
Again, I apologize for a lot of my previous posts. It was one of those days when my frustrations with H and his parents got to me. The 3 of them like to look at this situation with rose coloured glasses.