Trusting, The ow is driving this insanity right now. She wants to ensure that there is no possible way that your xh will want to reunite w/you. She apparently has sensed that you and your xh were getting along just a little bit and her hackles are up once again. Just look at what she's doing w/your youngest daughter, i.e., feeding her info because she knows she'll come tell you about it. I don't like this kind of manipulation that she is using w/your child.
As for his paperwork, cross out your address and put his current one on it and drop it back in the mail; or you could put return to sender. You do not need to be getting his mail.
As for the comment about putting a lock on the bedroom door, that's just plain crazy and bs that the ow has planted in his mind.
Trusting, step way, way back and allow this man to swing in the wind. The pressure of the ow and the wedding are getting to him and he's going to take it out on you because he is to stupid to realize that you are not the issue.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
