Hello Like many here I am dealing with a husband who had an affair and I found out in February. At the time I was dealing with my very Ill mother who died less than a month later. My husband had gotten a new phone and was acting funny, taking it everywhere and even to the bathroom. He locked it from me but I managed to figure it out and found partial texts that they had written to each other. He told her he loved her etc. Said things to her that I haven't heard in years. He has always been controlling and selfish. Embarrassed me in public. Now this. He tells me he is not seeing her anymore but I don't know. He was buying clothes and watching his weight. He is trying to do all kinds of things like writing papers to be published and he is successful but he is also busy with a sailboat he has had since before we were married and he is teaching a class at a local college. He is involved in astronomy which leaves little time for us or family. He also talks about wanting a new telescope which is extremely expensive and says he wants to write a book. I am not working now because I was taking care of my mom and that bugs him. He admitted he was trying to do all these things before he died because he feels he doesn't have much time. He has always been a hypochondriac. I believethis MLC getting worse is because his dad died last summer suffered a great deal before his death which was hard for my husband. Also my mother suffered and it was similar to his dad. I got the divorce remedy and started to try 180. Very difficult for me to do and a little too soon to tell how it's working. My family went up north for the weekend and he met us a day later to work on his boat he said, but he didn't get there til late in the day and our bed looked like he just turned it down and didn't sleep in it. I worry I am being betrayed again. How do you start getting a life? I have made some plans Without him and trying to act differently.
