Adinva, I admire what you're doing in regards to self-improvement, and I completely agree with it. I've always felt it was each of our own lifetime responsibilities to be the best "us" (singular) that we could be. I think we do ourselves a disservice if we go through life unconsciously. I would hate to think that I'm the same person I was when I was 20.
I don't read in your post anything about building trust or R with your H. That was more my question. Or are you saying that you can/will sustain this R indefinitely because you're so happy internally, it actually doesn't matter to you that your H might be having an A?