Question for those who have been divorced.

[ClingingToHope]

OK. My first big regret is actually moving out. I thought, incorrectly, that she'd beg to have me back within a couple of months. Turns out within four months she had a boyfriend.

Looking back, I'm still torn. Part of me wished as soon as another man was in the picture -- even though she swore he was just a friend -- I would have filed for divorce.

BUT, and this is a big BUT, I did not do the divorcing. She did. And my daughters know I wanted to work it out and this was their mother's decision. And that's going to remain true for the rest of their lives.

Now, one thing I am sure of is that once the divorce was filed I should have pushed it along. I did not lift a finger until it was 14 months into the process. Once I began pushing to finish it it was over in two months.

I do wish I'd done that.