In-Home Separation, One Year Point

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But maybe there is internal work that must be done to make it not just easy but POSSIBLE to do this thing that seems hard to us. I have a good counselor who is helping me work through the things that hold me back, and that combined with solution-based efforts is what I believe is necessary for me.

I think it's like most treatments for illness. If someone is really sick with a systemic infection, we might give tylenol to treat the pesky symptoms of the infection but without the right IV antibiotics, the patient will die.

You have to eradicate the cause.

I tried other therapies for awhile and failed miserably because I didn't understand why I reacted as I did and had not worked to eradicate the coping mechanisms that no longer served me well.

I always ended up back in the same place. It wasn't until I really allowed myself to go to that painful place that I needed those coping mechanisms for that I understood that I could let go of those things.