You seem to be ok with your level of sensitivity but I wonder how he has hurt you in every imaginable way so that you feel so unsafe with him that he is now the epitome of unsafe-ness to you, while other people get the benefit of the doubt. This seems so extreme that I think there's a component of your own emotional stability that is playing a role.
For example, why are you constantly devastated that he eats off your plate? Why not just deal with his habit? Why read more into it? I know you will be able to say why, but really, ultimately, does it matter? Can you let that go and just a) not go to restaurants with him, b) not sit next to him, c) slide your plate away or cover it when you see him reaching out, lovingly reminding him of your need for food privacy. It is your need you're trying to meet, not his behavior you're trying to control. Why does this become such a violation to you?
You have demonized him to the point where it seems like it's not all him, part of it is possibly going on within you.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
