Sounds just like my XW during the D process. They're (we both are) under extreme duress the whole time, wondering what the "other side" is thinking, planning, intending.

I coigned a term for XW during the heat of the sitch:
VSV = venom spitting viper.

We are not our true selves under duress - remember that.

Things will calm down eventually, maybe not immediatley after settlement, but soon thereafter.

Good Luck
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Me 53 XW 50
M 18 Years +2
S14 D19
Bomb 10-24-10
Served 1-27-11
Mediate 4-21-11
Civil D Final 6-2-11
No church anullment
"A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."