Tad, One of the things that I learned is that as long as you allow the mlcer to mistreat you, they will. Why does she put stuff out on FB the way she does? She knows that someone will tell you about it. It doesn't matter that she's left you in the dust...she's going to continue to chip away at you until she's satisfied w/her work. Mlcers are like children and they feel jealous, resentful and yes, even are bullies throughout mlc. They do not like the fact that we are strong, independent and happy people. If they are miserable, they want us to be right along w/them. When she senses that you are starting to live your life just a little bit, that's when she slams you again and you go down the hill in a tumble.
Tad, the slamming of the spouses is all part of the mlc and it doesn't matter that she is out in the world or living w/you. She knows deep down that you are still waiting in the wings for her and she is going to do her best to cut you out of her life no matter what it takes. This slamming is one of the ways that they do it. You are the only one that can stop the insanity that she is throwing at you. How? By not reading what she puts on FB and requesting that your friends not share that information w/you. They may think that they are helping you, but they aren't.
Tad, you are going to have to develop a thicker skin in order to deal w/her antics. Life is precious and far too short...leave her twirling in the wind and enjoy your time w/your children and your new job. Your childen are the most important people in your life right now. Turn your focus off your wife and put that focus back on your children, you and your job. I know that you can do this if you make up your mind to do so.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
