UPDATE Okay, I seek especially the wisdom/opinion/thoughts/feelings of the fairer sex here (or anybody, for that matter). I won't repeat the context of this journal entry, but you can probably catch up from reading the last couple of pages of this thread.
6:07pm - My wife pulls up to pick our son up. One of the first thing she says is "Did you get my stipulation yet?"
M: Yes. I met with my lawyer on Friday to discuss it. W: Are you going to sign it? M: [Pause] No. M: There were a lot of things I didn't agree on, and my lawyer had sent our reply on Friday afternoon. W: Are you sure? M: Yes. W: Well, I asked my lawyer today and she said she has not received it. M: Hmm, okay. ...Yadda yadda yadda...
A few moments later, after our son was buckled into his seat, she asks again, "So you're not going to cancel the court date?"
M:What? W: Are you going to cancel the court date? Or is this like the typical Alamo that doesn't do anything? M: No. I'm keeping it open. If whatever we come up with doesn't work, I want to be able to use mediation. W: So you want to play dirty... M: Dirty? Who's playing dirty? .... W: And you call yourself a Christian. You're the one taking me to court. [Paraphrase] W; The Christian man who looks at the things you do. [Pause] M: Do you think I like any of this? I ha...(stopped myself from saying "hate" in front of our son) don't like doing this. W: That's why I'm willing to do this outside of court. [Pause] So you're picking and choosing which Christian things to do. It's wrong to take me to court, you know. (This back and forth goes on for another 15 secs) M: Doing this outside of court? Y'know, we're still using lawyers to write up the stipulation right?
(And I closed the car door and walked away)
So my questions & feelings about this:
a. What the heck was she doing? Taking jabs? Or (based on DB/DR) testing me? Changing tactics?
b. And why does she keep doing it in front our son?
c. I feel somewhat gutted right now, but not because of the topic or the words my wife used. It's because I walked away from the conversation. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I felt that I needed to stop the conversation. However, I also feel that I didn't do so properly - I did not end on a strong, affirmative note, and more so, it bears resemblance to my old self where I'd walk away from things out of fear/disinterest. I couldn't help but imagine for a second what my wife was telling herself as I walked away from the car ("Yup, I made the right decision."
