You know we only mean the best for you when we remind you to take things very, very slowly. I was struck by your situation, especially because not so long ago you'd said:
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I have to accept that she is not a good person. For so long I rationalized her behavior. Things from the past just keep popping up in my head and I am seeing them in a new light. After all who wants to admit to themselves that they married someone with serious flaws. Because I love her so much I explained everything away. I took responsibility away from her and placed it on myself. But now I ask myself why should I do that now? Like someone said earlier, she fired you as her husband.
I don't bring this up to be negative, though. I know sometimes it's easy to say things like this because it's comforting to us whether we mean it or not, truly.
That said, it sounds like a really good start that you were able to discuss both of your needs in a new R. Well done.
It warms my heart to see that your situation is turning around. Please keep us posted as you proceed with caution!
