Correct. Wife is the petitioner. She filed due to several things she brought to my attention all at once that were contributing to her unhappiness and tied directly to me.
She has mentioned that she noticed changes in me - but has not said so again for quite some time. Just by vitrue of the fact that I never have my phone with me when we are together should be a big one.
The settlement agreement had "out of town" terms in it. It was agreed upon by both sides. She asked me for an excess (double) of the maximum.
I said that if we are working on our R, even AFTER a D - then I am fine having that much flexibility in the name of healing or relationship.
She then accused me of conditional efforts and DID, in fact. say "I find it incredibly manipulative that you would adjust his time away based on what you want and not what's best for him". I didn't respond - but wanted to ask her if she thought 20 days away from his father was "best for him". Sounded like it was best for her to me.
The issue has been dead for awhile now - just don't know if I want to breath life back into it if she doesn't bring it up.
Seems like whenever I bring up how I feel about things it bounces right off of her and has no impact whatsoever. Or worse yet, spawns a potential argument. I don't think she is interested in my feelings much right now.
I have been great (IMHO) in containing and not showing anger thus far. Even when I am getting chewed out I stay calm and do not react. I checked out for a few days after her "nasty-gram" just because I really didn't know what to say and I didn't want to start a fight. I needed to cool off. And, to be honest, part of me wanted her to see what "no contact" was like and to realize that I deserve enough respect not to talked to like that. Right or wrong? I don't know.
