In-Home Separation, One Year Point

[scaredsilly]

i think what you described is totally appropriate. not everyone i run into gets a hug and i don't always want a hug.

what you said about them, though, brought something home to me. i've been feeling betrayed by H's family. he's living at his mother's house. i don't know what they are saying to him and i don't know what H has said to them (i suspect some fairly vile things, though, because he REALLY felt sorry for himself in the beginning).

all i know is their actions have hurt my feelings. i don't know how i'll react to them when, or if, i see them again. but, your words have given me some compassion for them today. they are helping H, plain and simple. maybe they want us to be together, maybe not. i will try to look at what they are doing is helping him instead of betraying me. after all, they can't turn him down when he wants to stay or wants to talk.

also, from experience, i know it's so much better for the kids when all the steps get along. actually, i began to really like my ex's wife and we became best friends. there was no betrayal involved so maybe it was easier. the kids deserve to have peace between the families. none of this was their doing and we have to set an example for adult behavior, even if it's only us.