I haven't got time for the pain

[BeingMe]

My instincts in this matter would be to say, no. She has put you through enough already. But, she is the mother of your D1. So, kindness might stand you in good stead later. But, as everyone else is telling you, make sure you place some extreme boundaries in place. For instance, she can buy the groceries in the time she's there. Think very hard on this ... it may be confusing to D1, but children that age are resilient and may not understand what's happening.

Sounds like she will have to really earn some trust back. And, I don't believe anything she's saying ... she's begging and complimenting you because she's in a bind. Understand that, and you will better be able to keep your boundaries, and detachment in place.