Crimson, re custody...what happened in court? I want to re-cap what I do know and ask if it's accurate.
Your wife filed for the divorce
she based her filing, at least in part, on some big mistakes you made in the marriage in the PAST,
and she agrees you have changed for the better since this happened...
the court ruled...
THEN SHE wanted to modify the court ordered custody (temporarily for a trip) so SHE could have son more than the court awarded.
When she asked you (as she's LEGALLY required to do, thanks to her filing)
you said "no" or you didn't answer.
Then she accused YOU of manipulation or punitive measures or conditional efforts?
IF SO
you need to calmly express to her how the shoe could so easily be on the other foot
or the "pot is calling the kettle black", or however you need to say it.
Without anger, but you are pointing out the "oversight" on her end...
and that YOU too have hurt feelings and YOU too feel manipulated or mislead, or used. Your position about that is at least as clear as hers. IF and only IF you can point this out to her, without any anger showing, then it's valuable for her to finally see things from your perspective.
It's not just about whether YOU GET IT, and if she believes in you.
It's also about whether SHE gets how YOU feel.
if you show anger or look punitive, you'll be backsliding in a huge way - so beware of the anger/pride, okay?
But stand your ground.
Make sense?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
