I'm digging a little, bear with me. There are people who deal with financial pressures and don't neglect their marriage. Do you have good coping skills? Did you put work as a higher priority than your family? Were there choices you could have made to lessen the pressure like a smaller place or something? How did you deal with the financial pressures with your W. Was she a partner in whom you confided and brainstormed solutions? Was she on board with you working so much?

You say you treated her like a princess. What are her values, what has she indicated means the most to her? Does she like being treated like a princess or did it annoy her? Did you connect on an intimate level, with conversations and eye contact?

Did you lose yourself in the marriage? What about you attracted you to her at first? What can you do to GAL now?

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.