hi CV, I'm really really proud of you that you admitted that and you should be proud of yourself. Reread what I wrote to you because that's how I felt. I was disgusted when my IC suggested we do somethings to connect phsyically again. and I resented being the one to do the work. What I didn't realize is that I wasn't doing the work FOR him it was for me. I hope you find your way. And we all have such strong reactions because we wish we'd gottent his advice before things went too far south.