what to do? - Long Story

[LostIn407]

Same situation here.

I do not want to be married to "this" woman, and she is hellbent on moving on.

Yup. However, this woman is not the woman I married. I occasionally get glimpses of the woman I married, but the alien she is now I hope is just a phase.

I do not want to condone it, accept it, or in anyway approve it.

I asked her to stop, she said no. ..........

I am not being respected. My boundaries are not being accepted.

Yup. I told my W the same thing. She knows how I feel, but is making her own choices. The more I demand or try to control her actions, the more she goes to the OM.

As much as it stinks, the OM is a fantasy. He is all fun and good. You and I are the reasons she wasn't happy in her eyes.

Hardest thing to do is detach and go dark so she has to finally accept her decisions.

Here is how I get by when I think about the OM:
My best friend and I pretty much agree on what is going on. So whenever I go to him with what I think is going on/what they are doing, he simply says "It isn't something we don't already know, so why worry about it."