Journaling: As with all things there is good and bad. It is a matter of perspective. How we chose to act and comport ourselves is most important.
This weekend I stayed local getting yard work at the three houses accomplished. Still waiting for notification from the court system about when and where to begin paying support is causing me to put various projects on hold. To keep busy I purchased a pole pruner and have begun to trim more branches out of nearby trees and clear underbrush near the houses. Gotta keep the poison ivy and tick habitat minimized. Sometimes I feel as if I am living in a husqvarna commercial.
Memorial Day I attended a sunrise memorial service in my hometown and took dinner to mom. I grilled a little bit so we made a picnic of it staying indoors because of the heat. Mom has good and bad days, mostly good although we have begun to notice a little sun downing. There is no diagnosis of dementia and I think it is normal for her as she becomes tired, heck I can be a little altered at the end of a long hectic day
Late Monday I spoke with my son. He inquired if he could stay at my house while they find a place to live and get moved in. Of course I said yes. (Happy Dance) We’ll have to get the dogs acquainted and plan the mechanics of their move. In the mean time it is time to clean like a fiend. My granddaughter will be living with me and even though it is likely to only be for a few days to weeks I will ensure a baby friendly environment.
I am fighting an urge to gloat that they are not moving into XWs place. Mostly I have been successful at that. Although I did do a little happy dance after I got off the phone with him. This is an opportunity and I will not tarnish it with avarice about their presence. Discipline JS, discipline. Temper your actions to the situation.
It’ll be difficult not to break into celebrations when they arrive. I need to keep this under the radar until after they’ve arrived and are settled. Then I need to be simply supportive. I will celebrate a good relationship with my kids and their families. I will not engage in pouting and name calling.
This morning I called the county agency administering my support payments. It seems some mistakes were made when the documents transferred from the domestic court to their offices. It seems I was already late for a prorated April support payment and they added a penalty. I owed for May and if I wished to avoid another penalty I needed to provide the payment in cash prior to 10:30 AM today. They were missing contact information for me so they were about to notify the domestic court I was in arrears and have the court notify me. There is no point in assigning fault. That would become a cheeseless hole. I left work, visited the bank, and paid the agency the amount required. While I was there I spoke with a representative and hopefully have provided all of the additional information they needed. They even had an incorrect address for my employer.
I am not a saint, there was some gnashing of teeth during the drive from my office to the bank and I have a difficult time understanding the agency does not have a privacy policy, but I am taking satisfaction in proactively heading this off before it became a crisis. There will be a call to my L this afternoon to determine the status of the remaining documentation.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
