WAW told me she doesn't want to be married pt3

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Hello. Been a while again been very busy at work and at home. This week will be 1 year 1 month on Friday. My trip to LA was cathartic and helped me figure things out. I feel I am able to start a new chapter in my life and the interesting thing is not knowing what will happen. With only one exception. I am responsible for all the decisions.
My W is fully into her relationship to the point where the kids know he is around. My son sort of understands and I talk with him about it. My daughter is almost 4 and at the age of wanting to do her own thing. When she is with me she argues and does not want to listen and says she wants mommy. Nothing I can do for her but try my best. Its hard being a single parent and very tiring at the same time.
I am on a few dating sites because I am lonely and I need to be happy. Just before leaving LA for Philly I got an email from a girl I was talking with and she told me to call her when I got back. We have text and spoken on the phone a few times. Every time we try to get together she has canceled then I get an apology. Now I don't want to offend but I am starting to think women are nuts. All my friends that know both my W and I and they still think something is up with my W. One suggested mid life crisis. So I was curious and looked it up. One of the parts to a MLC is the spouse will go for someone way below the person they are leaving. Well that pretty much resembles us. I don't know if I did I would have answers, which I don't. So moving on.

Two Saturdays ago I was at the YMCA training for my Triathlon which took place last weekend. I was doing my laps in the pool when I noticed OM standing on the deck with his back to me. Then my W came out. OM went into another pool to attempt to hide. I finished up and walked over to my W to talk with her for a bit. I then informed her I was going to go speak with OM. She gave me a deer in headlights look. I went over shook his hand and informed him that she will always be special to me, and not to hurt her(which he will). I also informed him that she is a package deal and has our two kids. I then said to him if anything happens to my two kids and he is around then the only person he has to worry about is me. I am the one he has to answer two if something happens to my children. He said he understood and that he did not mean for this to happen. I know my wife and I know how this happened. This is how our relationship happened. I was there to talk to and be the one to give support. So he was full of [censored]. For him its all about convenience. Once he gets his license back, oh and a job he will be out at bars and they will be done. She will fall hard and probably blame me like it says in the books.
I was talking with my neighbor who was sitting with him and after a few drinks OM said he will always be an alcoholic, he doesn't want to get married and doesn't want kids. So why you seeing a mother of 2? Convenience.
Another ego boost for me. When we ran the race and the past few times I have seen my wife I have noticed she has gained some weight. I am going to assume the drinking life style is too blame.

Still taking it day to day week to week and moving on to bigger better things for kids and I.