for me to believe my W has changed there are a few things she would have to do.
1. ask me what i think and actually listen
2. when i make a decision, dont argue because it is not what she thinks
3. stop treating me like a 2nd class citizen.
4. believe me, not everyone else
5. stop the running away when life gets tough.
6. talk without attacking
7. stop flirting with other men or being "nice".
8. do something i want to do without complaining.
9. trust my judgement. i really am not a moron.
10. show me that she loves me and believes in me. tell me that i matter to her.
Dakota, I think our dynamics are a lot alike! I put in bold things that he's either said directly or in a round about way.
Even a week or so ago he complimented me and said "I'm sure you don't need to hear it from me" These are all things that yes I need to show him, but right now I think it might be classed as smothering.
Tuesday when I told him that I know now I didn't listen to him and gave him an example that's when he started crying and asked why I was doing this? Because I think it's too much to talk about our problems, or our M right now. He's not there.
The decision thing is definitely my new goal in dealing with him. I was just saying he doesn't share his life with me and why should he all I ever do is offer advice instead of just saying good for you or that's great or whatever.
