sorry i didnt respond earlier. for me to believe my W has changed there are a few things she would have to do.
1. ask me what i think and actually listen
2. when i make a decision, dont argue because it is not what she thinks
3. stop treating me like a 2nd class citizen.
4. believe me, not everyone else
5. stop the running away when life gets tough.
6. talk without attacking
7. stop flirting with other men or being "nice".
8. do something i want to do without complaining.
9. trust my judgement. i really am not a moron.
10. show me that she loves me and believes in me. tell me that i matter to her.
i am not your H, but you sound alot like my W at times. that is not a dig. i wish she would be doing half the work you are. have you ever asked how he felt about things and really listened without defending or attacking. sharing feelings is the last thing most men want to do. it makes me feel weak. to get attacked when i am already feeling weak get the fighting instinct in me to come out. it is sad and i need to work on that, but that is how i feel. just some thoughts, maybe not what you were looking for. if not let me know. i will try again
