The Secret is great. Also The Power which is all about putting love and gratitude out into the world and seeing the beauty all around you. It does change how you feel in general. And everything is helped by being positive.
SS, I think maybe you not going down was a good thing. From what I've seen you've been very accommodating and nice and sweet to him for a long time. Perhaps a bit of distance is needed.
And yes they are so much better at DB than we are.
