gb, I appreciate your response. I remember the early days of you posting and it seems you've come a long way. My question is, did you know you were subjugating yourself when you yielded to her and still chose not to stand for yourself? Did what you were doing give you some unease?
My H's biggest complaints when he left were that I was controlling and everything had to be my way. So I don't think that fits with the statement about wanting to spoil me. I don't think it can go both ways, can it? Can it be unconditional love until...it's not?
Sorry if your W called you spineless, I've never felt that about my H, he just doesn't like conflict in his life. I actually always felt very protected and taken care of by him in a physical danger scenario. It's one of the things I miss the most.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
