Actually, let's see here...

You do everything for a reason...

and your H is being a jerk...

so the reason you want to hurt your H is because he's being a jerk to you...

So...

if he was making you happy... you would work on making him happy...?

But you said you don't need him for your happiness...

So what do you want? You want him to be so unhappy that he leaves you?

Or just unhappy enough to continue to lash out at you...?

So you can continue to be right?