after reading your post - my first thought was - have you been pursuing him too much in some way, is he feeling too much pressure form you in some way?
the moment you backed off, you gave him the space to come towards you.
my word of the day is "over functioning". could it be you've been over functioning all this time, and so he's felt he had to under function?
if you got such a positive result - him moving toward you in some way - then you "did what works"
and from your description what worked was to back off, not work on the R , not work on anything. sounds like he needs to feel he has some say in how this goes and the space to do it in.
good job, crazyville -
btw - your last sentence - sounds like you may have some issues to work on with the idea of being intimate with your h?
where that came from seems to me, that when you backed off a bit it allowed him to see you, how attractive you are to him, it gave him the space to think of how it could be good with you. when you didn't give him a thought, as you say, he didn't feel the pressure. and when you didn't give him a thought, you were busy being the fun focused you who's good to be around. that's attractive.
so keep working on yourself - and focusing on you and allow it to happen.
zig
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
