What is is you want, SS?

And how much of that do you have control over?

You can only work on you, you can only change you.

There are no guarantees that your H will come back or that your marriage will be saved.

I know that not what you want to hear but that's the truth.

Become the person you want to be a let him figure out his life.

As Cadet says, Divorce means they want space.

Give him space and more space.

I see that on another thread you posted that nothing is working. How do you define working? How will you know when what you are doing is working?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss