Please don't be happy to SPITE (in spite of) your husband. You indicate you need a reason to do things? Do you need to spite your husband in order to be happy?
Just be happy... no reason...
(benign and honest questions) Do you need me to acknowledge that you answered my question about volunteering, directly? Was there a reason for answering my question directly? Is there anything else that you would like from me, for having answered that question directly?
I do not need answers to any of the above questions. I simply want you to consider... why does everything you do need a reason? That becomes expectations. With those expectations, you are setting yourself up for failure. What value do you get from that? You asked at one point if you need to lower the bar for your H. So then it becomes a sitch of your H measuring up... but you KNOW you lowered the bar... so you are still keeping score...
Here's the question that I would like to know the answer to:
