am i better off without him?

[Maggie3]

I feel the same and you and I are on similar timelines. From what I see in other peoples threads it takes a lot longer than we have been doing it for to see changes in our S's or to see them reacting to our changes. Just keep working on you and doing things that help you feel better and that help move you towards being that person you want to be.

It's kind of cheesy but I started listening to "The Secret" on audio today. From the first few chapters I've gathered that the secret is about positive thinking and attracting what you want through positive thinking, and if your thoughts are negative you'll attract negative things. Keep your chin up and focus on all your amazing qualities and hopefully he will remember them. If not, his loss.

Also, could you maybe set a boundary around him just showing up. My H always emails me in advance- usually letting me know a few days ahead when he's coming to do yardwork based on the weather forecast.