So his guilt and shame is directly related to me. Beyond that, I don't know if he carries any guilt or shame for anything. He seems very good at forgiving himself. Maybe too good, because then he just does the same thing again.
So what to do about that? I feel like I'm being punished twice for his sin. Do I just tell him it's fine, no problem, lying is no big deal, in order to alleviate his guilt?
If he continues to do the same things over and over again, it's possible that he's not feeling guilty or ashamed at all. He's just feigning contrition so that he can carry on getting away with behaving badly.
And no, you don't tell him it's fine to alleviate his guilt. Don't even address his guilt...it's not yours to alleviate.
Address his behavior. He's treating you like crap and it's unacceptable and you won't tolerate it any longer or some such thing.
If he is feeling truly guilty, then a change in his behavior will solve his problem.
me 45 H 46 T 5 M 2.5 BD Sept 6 2011 OW Sept 8 2011 Threw him out Sept 8 2011
