A violation of which I would agree would be terms for for your discord. The deeper side?
The deeper side I imagine would be that she lied about how she felt about the marriage since early October 2011 (she said it was OK...essentially mislead me). Then dropped the bomb on me a second time this January. And then instead of working with me and our MC she simply quits (which is her habit...things get tough - quit), though she continues to go, playing an act (?), has an affair (multiple affairs?), admits to what she did, and then moves out. She has treated me like a piece of property that she is bored with and tossed aside. I guess I believe she has utterly disregarded me as a human being. So no it isn't just about sex.
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What is it for you? What is the mystery for you?
The mystery I guess is: how could she treat me like I was just some toy that she got bored with and toss in the garbage without any empathy for me as a human being? Ten years in a relationship and nine years married, two beautiful little daughters, and she just gives up? I just can't fathom how she could just throw that away!
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you would be a fool only if you accepted her back without believing it in whatever form it comes.
I guess the problem is lack of empathy...I don't empathize with her position or her decision to leave, so would I be able to recognize some vague attempt to reconcile if it comes? I don't know. May be I shouldn't worry about it until I've given myself time to heal.
