asking if this "intimate" conversation was all there was, if my expectations are too high. If they are, then that's an area I need to work on.
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I'm trying to evaluate my expectations, against what HE says is intimacy. Any thoughts on that?
I will put it this way:
Expectations...? Have none.
Yes... this is an area you can work on.
No one can predict the future. That is what expectations are.
There is a phrase that we use around here and it is not easy, it's called "beginner's mind".
With beginner's mind, we fight the very human nature in all of us which is to attempt to guess the results of a personal experience, at any given moment.
Evolution is beginner's mind. It's AT BEST, a BEST GUESS at a future result... a hope... organisms live and die on best guesses...
Dinosaurs... worked for a while... but no way to know the end results...
Mammals... we've done pretty good, so far... but we don't know that we will continue as a species... just a best guess that's worked, so far...
Could you have had that same conversation with your H... and NOT had any expectations?
