-You have mentioned a couple times your not sure how to fix some of your w's things like her weight loss. You have to try to realize that you can not fix her nor should you attempt to do so. In her eyes that is you being controlling.
-You have absolutely 0% control of her and her choices. When you begin to understand this it can actually be freeing on many levels.
-Focus your energy instead on U. What can u do for yourself to become a better person, a better friend, a better father? This crisis is an opportunity for you to really understand yourself and find out things about yourself that you may not have had the chance to do so yet. Try to see this as a chance to become the best possible NB1712 you can be.
-Have you seen the 37 rules yet? I will try to find them or hope someone will post them here for you.
-Right now i sense your w needs space and you are having trouble accepting that which I totally get. It took me a long while to see that what worked best in my sitch was to completley let her go and be herself, find herself, etc.. Even if you don't agree w/ any of her decisions you must allow her to make them. You trying to control anything will only push her further away from you.
-I have been in simialr shoes as you. My w has been out of my house for 9 months. It may get worse before it gets better but if you use this time wisely you will be a better person for yourself, your kids, and your w.
