Brit Oh god please don't tell me you read through the 3 or 4 threads of misery I wrote. To be honest they're kinda embarrassing. I was so desperate to keep something that was almost non-existent that I conceded to a lot of things which I'm ashamed to have conceded to.
It was almost like the more I yielded the more she despised me. It wasn't until I finally put the breaks to a LOT of things that things started turning around.
It was hard though, but my life is so much better. My marriage is 5 times better than it was at this point last year, we still have some serious issues, but it feels like it can be achieved.
Those were some scary days as I held on to myself and stood up for myself.
For years W took the lead, and seriously resented me for it. I was just tryin to be "egalitarian".
In a democracy of 2 someone has to be the tie breaker, I deferred to her, since it felt easier. Afterall I didn't want to piss off my wife. Which led to the oh so painful.
