Thanks, GWN. Yes, there is likely guilt and shame, associated with me. Things he has done to me or still doing to me. Things that he did that he was perfectly comfortable with and living seemingly guilt free (eg. lying to me) until I found out and got angry and hurt. So his guilt and shame is directly related to me. Beyond that, I don't know if he carries any guilt or shame for anything. He seems very good at forgiving himself. Maybe too good, because then he just does the same thing again.
So what to do about that? I feel like I'm being punished twice for his sin. Do I just tell him it's fine, no problem, lying is no big deal, in order to alleviate his guilt?
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I suggest you watch and see whether he is able or willing to TRULY share on an emotional level.
Under what circumstances? Life in general, he's not (ie. this weekend's trip.)
