Wife of 7-Years is Divorcing Me, but Yet Not pt. 8

[25yearsmlc]

agree with above. Leave out the snide remark although I sense your purpose is an after the fact "ratification" of what she said earlier.

Instead YOU COULD try "Since we both have Monday off, I want to split son's time and get him at X hour (I think noon is early for her to have a "half" a day)

so do NOT ask her...tell her what you are doing (esp since it's documentation of reasonable requests you are seeking, via the texts) and b/c it does not look so weak...

OR
to be clear-
I don't see why you'd get him more than usual - if your p/u time for Mondays is usually 4 pm...

is that b/c normally he'd be in school or at daycare during the day?

IF SO -


then this is a glimpse of what life will be like in South Carolina if you don't have FIRM custody arrangements.

I'd toss this piece of leverage to her.

"W,
when you treat me this way and threaten me, it shows me how I cannot expect or assume that you'll be fair w/me in South Carolina,

or that you'd ever put your anger behind you... WHEREAS, In California, bad mouthing your spouse is called "parental alienation" and it's frowned upon so much that it's grounds for LOSING custody....& since

I don't know SC's laws BUT I like the protection of California law and fear you'll only keep on harping about me to son & pressure me to give up my rights -- I can think of NO reason to go there.

The negative carping will damage him more than it'll damage me....and you can't see that, which is sad b/c it means your anger is your priority, not our son."

And Alamo -then I'd fight to stay in state....

you may well lose (or change your mind) but PLEASE make her fight to take him away, don't give him away.

There's a HUGE difference

and he may need to see PROOF of that effort on your end, someday.

((( )))