When it's a one-way street...part 5

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Well, it's more about you sharing than him sharing. Passionate Marriage has a model where you make yourself truly vulnerable, let yourself be truly "seen", but you do it because you want to, not because you need to. The goal is also to not be effected by the response -- I.e. if you get criticized you don't care because you don't measure yourself by H's reaction to you.

That's what the book says. I'm working on it. My W does not like to share. She tries to make me believe she doesn't think about our relationship at all, doesn't do any introspection, she just "is".

I don't buy it.

I do share, I'm willing to be vulnerable and I really am not bothered by how she responds to what I say, but the lack of reciprocation bothers me.

CV, in the exchange above, you were choosing the topic for his intimacy and that's not how it's supposed to work, he needs to choose.

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