Detaching is more of mental attitude than anything else. Once you've got it down mentally, the rest will fall into place.
If I may elaborate: The mental aspect is the beginning of detachment. It takes time and will to fake it till you make it so to speak.
The goal is to achieve a tolerable level of emotional independence, so you can function normally or get off the rollercoaster as it were.
This is as opposed to emotional dependence upon another person, whose words, actions and choices determine your level of sadness, anger or happiness. If you continue to let them have such power over you even when they may be oblivious to it, what kind of existence is that?
It takes time and effort, but there really isn't any wise alternative.
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Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
