You sound like you are skipping along just fine. Great 48 rule you have! I started that too a while ago - though not a full 48 hours, so maybe I will stretch it out to that.
One thing that I kept thinking when reading your posts was about was the book A Woman's Guide to Changing Her Man: Without His Even Knowing It by divorce busting queen MWD for some was to lower his resistance a bit.
Also, that resistance trait your H has, is one my H has as well. Most men do. I have since realised that my hammering home something creates more resistance too and doesn't work, and I can see you have discovered that as well. I wish I had learned or known about different ways of approaching my H, and we might not be where we are. But that's there the book above will help in giving you ideas on new ways.
And, eventually H will get to see the changes you have made. In fact, he probably already has just hasn't said anything. My own H was very much like that - everyone else saw changes, and my H was the last to say something (though he noticed a lot sooner than he let on).
