Thanks NLW, it always helps when someone understands you!
In our M my H and I had polarized to the point where he was much harsher than he needed to be and I was trying to counteract that by being much more nurturing. We've reset that quite a bit this past year by me not jumping so quickly to react to what H does. I even sometimes compliment the way he handled something or even just try to appreciate that he handled it in his way. However we did it, I think we're off the see-saw.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.