i think the responses you've been getting are pretty much in agreement here. you have NO CHOICE when it comes to denying her what she wants anymore. it's her choice and i don't think you are getting it. you have no more power over her and if you continue to show anger towards her and try to blame her and deny her what she wants, she will pull further and further away.

you continue to fight. "she brought alot of that on herself". blaming.
"...deny them what they want", controlling.

"getting my feelings out", blaming.

"has only made things worse for me", very true...that's what we're trying to tell you.

M:63
H:53
S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23
M:15
T:16

Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways."
H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12
12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing