It is always a possibility, but everything got bad after coming off the meds she was on. She only saw things in a negative light when, what i feel, she was going through depression. Not one thing made her feel good. The more I fought to make M better, the more she fell back. When I backed away, I wasn't doing anything to fix things. How can someone "win" in the position?
There is no fighting for your marriage.
You want to make her see things your way, you want her to understand but only if it agrees with your understanding.
That's all control.
Do you want to force her back or do you want her to come back of her won free will, because she loves you?
It's not throwing in the towel to work on you, to change those things you know you need to change.
And she may see you as the better choice.
Or she may not but either way, you have no control over her choices.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
