Hi nb1712 - So sorry that you're in this, and also that you posted for so long without getting responses. Not sure how, unless moderation kept your posts from appearing for a while.
Yes this is exactly what appeared to be happening. When the posts get approved they are still pages behind and so not show up as unread.
Keep posting and you will start to get more responses. Post on other peoples threads and thank those that post on yours even if you don't like their advice.
This stuff does not make sense at first. But it wil, don't shut out the stuff that hurts, it might be what you need to look at.
