@advinva, I feel much less agitated since sending off the email. I don't have to fret about a face to face meeting. The ball is now in his court and he can proceed how/when he wants. Not my problem.
@Joyful Girl. He refuses counselling and even to talk to anyone from our life together. Our family doctor suggested in late January that he should be on anti depressants and he refused and since then, from what I understand, he won't take any calls from our doctor. That's why his email was so alarming with the statement about having a discussion. He's just completely shut down for three months now and doesn't want to talk about anything except when he was living at home the last few weeks talk about dividing assets but even then he refused to say specifics.
I'm taking the good advice from my good friends here. This is his problem now. I'm living in a beautiful, airy home with a garden while he chose to move out to a rented apartment an hour away from his work.
I'm very fortunate to be in a position where I'm not relying on him for financial support. I've been fixing little things around the house that I previously depended on him for--like the thingamjig on the edge of the shower door. Went to the hardware store and asked for help and got the right glue and spent half an hour sitting at the end of the tub getting it to work. Felt like a little victory.
I can make the payments for our house on my own, heck, I've even for the first time hired a dogsitter so I don't need to rely on him when I'm out of town for work.
