Seeking, Yep, your h was definitely peeking out a bit. I'm glad he came and showed you where your father's grave was located and assisted you in washing off the headstone. May I ask what did you use to wash the headstone?
He stills feels quite a bit of guilt if he won't look you in the eyes.
I hope that you and your family have a pleasant holiday weekend.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.