I sent a short email back to him saying I would prefer those communications be done via email rather than discussions in person and he should send me his plans. This is entirely his decision and I think the best thing for me to do is let him work it out what he wants done and then I'l take the info to you guys and a lawyer and handle it that way. There's no point in having a face-to-face discussion if all he wants to discuss is how to divide up the life it took us 20 years to build.
Thank you to you all for responding. In lurking here for weeks, I felt like I finally found people who understood what was happening and who genuinely cared for each other.
Do others feel like I do that at some point the WAS is going to realize what s/he is losing but by that time it will be too late? I have no intention of giving up on our M but mercy, sometimes it's so hard to keep the faith with all the crap raining down. Crap completely engineered by H.
