Grace, Love, Compassion, and Faith - It's A Choice

[JustStunned]

Hey Val, IMO the likelihood anyone will be asking me out is slim to none, so I’m not going to worry about it.

I have thought about it a bit though. Like you I am not ready and the possibility of becoming infatuated is very real to me. Still I need more personal associations so if I thought it was “just lunch” I’d go and practice my interpersonal skills as they need exercise and at least a buff shine.

If I thought it was more I would decline, and that should be enough. If pressed I will explain I am getting back on my feet following my divorce and I am taking a very slow approach getting to know people.

I have fielded a few questions and made mention of my relationship status a couple of times during casual conversations, doing so I have been factual and sometimes too subtle. I think if they missed the comment I was married to, or my XW is a nurse, that is their miss. I have no need to elaborate the point.

I am dam proud of being a Marine veteran. I step off with the left foot. Standing in a meeting I will plant my right foot and move my left, hands crossed in front not behind anymore. I keep my grooming pretty close to the standard. I check my alignment several times a day. My boots and shoes are properly laced and shined if applicable. My POV has veteran plates. My discharge and a farewell plaque hang on the wall of my office. I believe the leadership principals have served me well in the private sector and I seek to expand my knowledge of their application. If that is flaming so be it.

My point is you can demonstrate pride of self without rubbing another’s nose in it. IMO that is a measure of maturity, self awareness and consideration.

Oh and congratulations on reaching another goal!